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What is Parenting Effectiveness Training (P.E.T.)?

P.E.T. was created by award-winning psychologist and three-time Nobel Peace Prize nominee, Dr. Thomas Gordon in 1962.  It has been continually updated ever since. 


The programme introduced to the parenting world a series of core communications skills that have become the golden standard in psychology, neuro-science, professional counselling and therapy.  Eventually, the programme proves to be so effective that it has been developed also for leaders, youth as well as teachers and coaches and gained popularity. 

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What does P.E.T. offer?

P.E.T. opens to a roadmap of parenting skills that can be universally applicable to children aged 3-99, irrespective of their cultural, economic, or religious differences.
You will learn:

  • How to talk to your children so that they will listen

  • How to change the child’s behaviour effectively without relying on power-based discipline (rewards / punishment)

  • How to be free of power struggle

  • When and how to allow children take ownership of problems, and when and how to take an active role in solving problems as parents

  • How to make everyday parenting less stressful with fewer problems

  • How to build and sustain a nourishing connection with your family members

  • A roadmap that helps troubleshoot family problems and identifies the most effective skills to use for solving them

  • A specific methodology for resolving family conflicts so both sides are fulfilled

  • How to set the right and healthy boundaries

  • How to see children’s ‘misbehaviour’ from an inspiring perspective that raises a child with self-motivation, self-esteem, and respect and love for his / her family

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What changes should I expect upon application of P.E.T. skills?

What changes I should expect upon application of P.E.T. skills? 
The P.E.T. course has been evaluated by over 60 independent research studies. These are the positive effects of P.E.T. found most consistently in these studies:

  • increase in children’s self-esteem; 

  • improvement in ratings of children’s behavior by teachers; 

  • parents improved their scores on democratic attitudes, acceptance of their children, and understanding of their children; 

  • positive effects on both attitudes and behavior of parents endured up to 26 weeks were significantly greater than any other parent training programmes 

In real life, parents are often amazed with the dramatic improvement both in their families and in all their relationships, upon applying the P.E.T. skills.  They have reported remarkable changes in their children with: 

  • improved grades at school, 

  • fewer tears and temper tantrums, 

  • better relationships with their peers, 

  • more responsibility about homework and chores,

  • more willingness to discuss with parents their problems and concerns, instead of withdrawing, 

  • more self-confidence,

  • a happier disposition, 

  • higher ability in problem solving, 

  • less aggression and hyperactivity, 

  • fewer sicknesses

  • fewer power struggles–less tension, less resentment, but more fun, more peace, and more love in family

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Can P.E.T. communication skills apply to my unique family culture?

P.E.T. is a communication roadmap specifically tailored for parenting and is built on the basis of love and respect. It is therefore applicable to people of all age groups, and from all backgrounds.


Over 7 million people have been taught (or read a Gordon Training book) the Parent Effectiveness Training model in over 50 countries and in over 27 languages. It has proven applicable to all cultural and ethnic backgrounds.

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Dr Thomas Gordon is widely recognized as a pioneer in teaching communication skills and conflict resolution methods to parents, teachers, youth, organization managers and employees. His Gordon Model concepts are now known world-wide.


Dr Gordon was nominated for the Nobel Peace Prize in 1997, 1998 and in 1999, and was the recipient of the American Psychological Foundation’s 1999 Gold Medal Award for Enduring Contribution to Psychology in the Public Interest. He was also the recipient of the 2000 Lifetime Achievement Award from the California Psychological Association.

Dr Gordon is a licensed clinical psychologist.  He received his B.A. from DePauw University, his M.A. from Ohio State University, and his Ph.D. from the University of Chicago, where he served on the faculty for five years.   He was the author of nine books and contributed over 50 published articles on organizational leadership, communications, counselling, discipline, parenting, conflict resolution and democratic decision-making.

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